This week we have been talking a lot about interdependence in relationships and what that means. So I want to start out by asking you…what does an interdependent relationship look like to you? Please put it in the comments because I think it is important for us to recognize that an interdependent relationship looks a little bit different to each of us, based on where we lie on the dependency scale…somewhere between being completely dependent on our partner to being completely independent of them.
Many independent people will say that an interdependent relationship to them looks like being loved and supported by their partner. And many dependent people say that to them an interdependent relationship looks more like having more personal control and freedom. The truth is that what we want is usually the one thing that is the most difficult for us to allow ourselves to have.
Independent people have mastered being self-sufficient which is awesome. But the cost of that mastery is oftentimes an inability to trust, believe in and rely on others to be there when they need them…which leaves them longing for support. It’s not that the support isn’t available to them. They simply don’t know how to ask for it, accept it, or acknowledge that they need it.
Dependent people have mastered relying on others to get their needs met which is amazing. But the cost of that mastery is oftentimes an inability to trust, believe in and rely on themselves to make their own way…which leaves them longing for control and freedom. It’s not that they don’t have freedom or control, they simply don’t know how to ask for it, accept it, or acknowledge that they need it.
So how do we find our way back to an interdependent relationship?
First you must recognize where you fall on the scale of dependency.
Then you must recognize what you need to do to start mastering a balance for yourself. It’s not about independent people becoming dependent or vice versa. It is about all people mastering the ability to depend both on others and on themselves so that they can both give and receive love & support in abundance.
Understanding where your dependency style originated can be super helpful. It can also help you be able to acknowledge where your fears, doubts, and limiting beliefs were born that have kept you from being able to fully experience the full range of being able to depend completely on another to being able to have them depend completely on you.
The final step is in recognizing your partners dependency style. Are they dependent? Then what they really want is to feel strong, powerful, and in control. How can you support them and empower them to believe in their self? Is your partner independent? How can you help support them?
For most of us it boils down to creating strong and effective communication tools with each other. Just opening up the topic of interdependence with your partner can be an enlightening experience. What does an interdependent relationship mean to them? Where do they see themselves on the scale? What is working for them and not working for them currently in your relationship? What new skills can they work towards mastering in order for the two of you to find balance together within the relationship? And how can you support them?
If you take the time to sit down with your partner and really listen to their answers to these questions, together you will be able to chart a course towards the interdependent relationship of your dreams. And if you need support along the way I am always available for a Family Holistic Therapy session to help you work through the difficult parts together.
I had a live session on Facebook this week where I promised to send out a healing meditation to everyone on my email list that will walk you through the process of finding your way back to interdependence in your relationship. You will find the link below.
Wishing you and your loved one a blessed week.
With love & light,
Maybe it's because we have been locked up together for the past couple of months, or maybe it's because there are several planets retrograde at the moment...but whatever the reason, many of us have been experiencing breakdowns in our relationships. Not just little breakdowns mind you, but HUGE ones!
"I think we may end up getting a divorce when this is all said and done."
"I can't take one more minute of this! She is driving me crazy!"
"Why can't he just talk things over with me like a normal person?"
Sound familiar...? If not, count yourself as one of the lucky ones and/or single ones. But for those not-so-lucky ones, the struggle is real.
Part of the problem is that we just don't know how to communicate with each other. We may have tried to talk about things in the past but it ended up turning into a fight so now we don't even bother trying.
What if I was to tell you that with a simple change of perspective that you and your partner could be resolving issues like nobody's business?!? Today's video promises to give you the new perspective that you need...
So what do you think? Easy, right? I hope this video inspires you to sit down together and talk through the issues so you can find your way back to peace and love with each other.
And if you should need more personalized support, you can always schedule a Holistic Therapy Session with me to help you work through any fears, doubts or limiting beliefs that may be getting in your way.
Please share your experiences after you give the process a go. We'd love to celebrate your successes with you!
With love & light,
One of the hardest questions I ever have to answer is "What do you do?" You would think that at my age I would have my snappy "elevator pitch" all lined up and ready to go which would sound a little something like this...
I help people achieve their goals and dreams by nurturing their Spirit. I inspire, educate, and empower them to believe in their Self so that they can live their life to the fullest. And I do all that by combining my experience as a Naturopathic Doctor, Personal Growth & Development Trainer, EnergyWorker and as a Life Coach to help my clients reach the goals they have set for themselves.
But even that doesn't come close to what I really do. I've even tried asking my friends and clients for feedback on why they come to me. Their answers make it even more confusing...
See what I mean? My clients experience all sorts of varied results, so how am I supposed to create a cookie-cutter response to the What Do You Do question...?
What I have come to realize is that over all of these many years that I have been doing "my" work, that my greatest prayer has been answered. When I was young I would pray every day to be used by God as an instrument of healing...and that is exactly what I witness every day in my sessions with my clients. I get to see them heal physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually, financially, in their relationships, through their work, and in the level of joy they are experiencing in their lives.
And now for my confession...
I must confess that in my sessions I am not "doing" anything. I simply show up with the intention of helping, and my clients show up with the intention of healing, and God does the rest. Which is probably why my clients experience so many "miracles". You know the old saying...Whenever two or more are gathered in my name there am I with them (Matthew 18:20). I simply help people access their innate connection to God so that they can heal their lives.
I have always had the ability to see the very best in people, even when they are having difficulty seeing it in themself. I have also always had the ability to "receive higher guidance" in order to help people move forward from where they are to where they want to be with grace and ease. I love people deeply and want nothing more than to see them succeed and be happy. And helping them do that gives me incredible fulfillment.
A perfect example is my client "Nancy" who was a 26 year old elementary teacher who came to me because she had been diagnosed with stage 4 pancreatic cancer and her doctors had all told her there was nothing they could do, and that she needed to get her things in order. She was scared and angry but she was not ready to die, so when a friend had mentioned me to her she made an appointment. She had a clear vision of what her life was going to look like on the other side of cancer and in our sessions together she received clear guidance on what she needed to do in order to heal herself so that she could make that vision her reality, and she did! About 8 months after we started working together she went back to visit her doctor (who was shocked to see she was still alive) and the only thing her doctor could say was that they must have misdiagnosed her. The truth is that they simply underestimated the power that she had within herself to heal. To this day there is nothing I enjoy more than receiving updates from Nancy about her happy life she is enjoying with her husband and kids, and knowing the amazing difference she is making in the life of her students.
What can a Life Coach do for you?
A Life Coach can help you get from where you are to where you want to be in your life. Just keep in mind that the only thing that limits your possibilities with your coach is your coach's own limiting beliefs...so pick someone who absolutely believes in you, and that has helped other people accomplish the same types of goals you have set for yourself.
As for me, I am just grateful that I get to continue to be an instrument of healing. I am currently working on an online course that I will be bringing to you for free in the very near future. All you have to do to make sure that you are among the first to have an opportunity to join the Launch Into Spiritual Enlightenment Workshop is to join the waitlist now!
Everything is energy, and energy has many different vibrational frequencies. You can see from the chart that love carries a vibration of 500 which is the threshhold for health and well being. Wouldn't it be lovely if we could all be in the space of love every moment of every day? But let's face it...here on planet earth there are some days where it can feel like a stretch getting ourselves up to the level of apathy!
These days there seems to be a preponderance of lower vibration emotions that are present. I had noticed in my own life that many of my friends who I call on to lift me up when I'm feeling down were struggling with their own emotional overloads. Anger, saddness, disgust, and fear are running rampant but nobody is talking about it or has any idea how to make it stop!
The problem is that although many people are feeling overwhelmed by emotion, most of them are just stuffing them down and attempting to carry on, hoping that they will just "go away". However, those emotions each have vibrational patterns which correlate to the different organs in the body and if they go unchecked they can wreak havoc on your health. Anger can affect the liver, grief can affect the lungs, worry can affect the stomach, fear can affect the kidneys, and not being able to let go can affect the colon. The list goes on but I'm sure you get the picture: these emotions need to be released.
Emotional Release Work
A while back I found myself in a 3 day state of depression, and if you know me you know that "sad" is not my go-to emotion. It was quite disturbing because no matter what I tried, nothing seemed to work. I just couldn't pull myself up out of it. I called my dear friend/healer and she pointed me towards some nutritional advise that she had been reminded of in a video she had recently watched. I ate the foods and watched the video which lead me to the next piece, which lead me to the next piece, which lead me (finally) back to my peace.
I had combined my years of being a BodyTalk practitioner with magnet therapy, chinese medicine, and ayurveda to find a solution. It was simple, quick and incredibly effective! But was it just a fluke...? I tried it out on some family members and friends and they each had the same response. "This is like magic!" I have been so impressed with the results that have been occuring that it has awakened a passion within me to help as many people as I can. Hopefully I will have the opportunity to help you too.
The process is simple. Make an appointment. Be sure to include your phone number in your client file so I can call you at the time of our session. When I call be prepared to spend 30 uninterrupted minutes with me in a stress-free environment. At the end of the appointment you will feel relaxed, renewed, and rejuvenated.
”I don’t know what has happened! Ever since I hit menopause my waist has disappeared, my energy has hit an all-time low, and my libido has completely disappeared. Help! I hate myself and am honestly afraid that if I don’t turn things around soon I am going to destroy my marriage."
I recently received this email from a client asking me for pointers on how to lose weight. She was obviously feeling quite discouraged as are many in the post-menopausal phase of life, so today we are going to talk about the 5 things you can start doing today to go from being fat, sick, and unhappy to thin, healthy, and vibrantly energetic over the next 6 months.
What is your why? Please put it in the comments below so I can hold that vision with you.
Following these simple tips will help you start on the path of being thin, healthy, and vibrantly energetic, and if you should need more support please join me for a free Finally Thin Forever session.
With peace, joy, love & light,
Have you ever noticed how some people notice everything that is wrong with the world, while others notice everything that is right with it? Which type of person are you?
The type that tends to get caught up in the problems
The type that tends to clearly see the solutions
Did you know that the only difference between the two is their point of focus. One is focused on what is happening outside of them, while the other is more attuned to what is happening within. Being able to recognize your own viewpoint is essential if you want to live a happy life.
I am naturally able to see the problems in any given situation. I have always been able to do this, and I’ve actually wondered if it is my superpower. It’s probably what made me such a great Naturopathic Doctor…I could see where the body, emotions, and thoughts were out of alignment and help people bring themselves back to health with a few gentle adjustments to their lifestyles.
But where it doesn’t serve me is when I become righteous or judgmental, thinking that I “know better”. One of the reasons I gave up my practice was because I was finding that I had become way more invested in my client’s well-being than they were, and it wasn’t healthy for me. I genuinely loved and cared for my clients and would find myself up at night researching new ways to help them. Then they would come in a couple of weeks later for a check up and had not yet implemented one of my suggestions. It was maddening.
It was also a huge problem.
The beautiful thing about problems, is that if you look close enough you will always see the solution is right there with it. A Course in Miracles describes it in this way…
A problem is simply an area of darkness. The solutions are seen in the light. If you bring your light into the darkness, your solutions will be revealed.
That is exactly what I did! My problem was I loved my clients, but I felt like they weren’t taking action on the information I was providing them with. The solution was finding clients that were ready to take the actions necessary to help them experience the results they wanted. That epiphany is what lead me to switch the focus of my business to a coaching model, and I must tell you it has been extraordinarily rewarding.
I get to use my knowledge from being a Naturopathic Doctor to help my clients experience vibrant health. I get to use my knowledge from being a business owner and entrepreneur to help my clients experience business success. I get to use my knowledge from being a personal growth and development trainer to help my clients experience loving and connected relationships. And I get to fulfill my purpose by helping my clients to fulfill theirs too.
What problem are you currently faced with? The one that seems impossible to solve, and you may have even noticed yourself beginning to give up on the hope of ever making it happen. It may be that extra weight you have been carrying around for far too long, or that dream of financial freedom that still seems out of reach, or the quest to find, fall in love with, and live happily ever after with your soulmate which still eludes you.
It’s time for you to get help finding a solution to your problem! And I am just the person to help. I challenge you to book your Free Rapid Change Coaching Session with me right now. In our one-hour phone session you will:
Do yourself a favor and take advantage of my problem-solving superpower. And if you have any friends that you think would benefit from my help, please feel free to share this information with them.
Thanks so much! Have a great week…
With peace, joy, love, and light,
Spring is here, and many people are beginning the process of cleaning projects around the house. Some may even be doing internal cleaning with a colon and liver cleanse.
Although there are definitely huge benefits for cleaning up your physical environment, there are even greater benefits to cleaning up your mind. You don't have to spend 5 minutes watching the news to see all of the fears, doubts, and limiting beliefs that are prevalent in our world, and sometimes we feel overwhelmed and incapable of making a difference or changing things. But I assure you, we can.
And it all starts with changing our mind.
One of my relationship coaching clients started working with me because her husband had cheated on her and she was deciding how to move forward and needed some support. She was ashamed to talk to some of her friends about it, and the ones she did tell immediately took sides...which was in no way helping her to make a clear decision.
On one hand she loved this man. He was the father of her children, her best friend, the co-creator of their beautiful life together. But on the other hand, how could he have done this to her? To humiliate her and completely disregard their family like that? She felt like she was being ripped in two.
My first step with a client is typically to get a clear vision of where we are heading, but she was unable to start there. I needed to help her clear her mind completely so that she could hear the voice of her own soul.
I gave her a guided 15-minute meditation to practice daily. After the first week she was aggravated and declared it had been the worst week ever! She had gone from tears to anger to disbelief to revenge. I told her that was great because it meant she was working through her grief process. She just needed to trust the process and keep to her daily meditation.
By the second week she was starting to feel a bit more peaceful and centered. She was beginning to accept that what was done was done. That's when I asked her how she got him to cheat on her. WHAT??? Yes, you heard me correctly. You see the one thing I know for sure about relationships is that when all of your needs are being met by your relationship there is no reason to go looking anywhere else. It took a moment for that to sink in, but once it did she was able to take responsibility for how she contributed to the breakdown in their marriage. It also allowed her to start seeing the possibilities in how she could make things better.
Our turning point came at week three when she decided that she wanted to forgive her husband and transform their marriage into a loving, connected, fun filled, and romantic adventure. Yay! We did it. We had clarity of direction, and the real work could begin…and boy did it! You'll be happy to know that it’s three years later and they are living happily ever after.
Clearing the mind is a necessity for anyone who wants to experience the life of their dreams.
You can't decide on where you are going based on past pain, misery, or confusion. You must find a way to let go of all of that, and center yourself in peace so that you can hear the sweet voice of your soul's truth.
If you’ve been wondering how to spring clean your mind, do not fear…I am gifting you the very same meditation I gave my client three years ago. It was a gift to me many years ago from my teacher Alexander Everett, the father of the human potential movement. I have been using this meditation daily for many years and have shared it with my students and clients who love it as much as I do.
Your 21 Day Spring Cleaning Mind Challenge:
Commit to practicing this Centering meditation every day for the next 21 days. It is only 15 minutes long. It is best to practice at the same time every day. It doesn’t really matter if that is first thing in the morning, at lunchtime, before bed, or anytime in between…just pick a time and stick to it. When the universe notices you are committed to showing up every day the miracles start happening.
At the end of the challenge you will have cleared through much of your mental garbage, and you will find yourself feeling lighter, peaceful, and inspired. I’ll be anxious to hear how it went, so please let me know your results at the end of your 21 Day Spring Cleaning Mind Challenge.
It’s nice to have a buddy to share the journey with, so please feel free to share this with any of your friends and loved ones who you think would benefit by joining you in this challenge.
Happy Spring Cleaning!
Keli Ackroyd has been coaching people on creating the life of their dreams since 1992. Are you ready to make your dreams come true? Sign up for your free "Manifest a Miracle Session" today.
Have you ever noticed how some people just seem to be lucky? They got the perfect figure, career, or family and are living happily ever after. How in the world did they do that? Do they have a fairy godmother they forgot to tell you about?
But they did do a few things that many of us never think to do. These aren't deep dark secrets or mysteries from the beyond, and if you were to ask the lucky ones what they have done, they may not even be able to put it into words.
Not because they are withholding from you, but because it's just how they have always done things so they don't realize that they hold the key to luck.
So today I will talk to you about...
By following these three simple suggestions you can become the creator of your own luck, the designer of your own ideal life. You will be the one others are looking at in awe and wishing they were as lucky as you.
How will you take the ideas from today and transform your own life? Please reply and let me know. And if you think this information would be valuable to others, please feel free to share, tweet, and forward to your heart's content.
Keli Ackroyd has been coaching people on creating the life of their dreams since 1992. Are you ready to make your dreams come true? Sign up for your free "Manifest a Miracle Session" today.
This year seems to be chock full of horrible flu's and viruses. One particularly ugly one reared its ugly little head in my life in February.
I had just suffered the lost of my beloved shih tzu Harry, and was working through the stages of grief. Did you know that grief can disengage your immune system? Well I did, but I still wasn't prepared for what was coming.
It started out with a runny nose. And I mean runny...like hot water running out of a tap. At night the water dripped down through my sinuses and into my throat, leading to the next step of laryngitis.
From there it traveled down into my lungs, and the coughing started. Coughing up huge chunks of what looked like rotting pieces of my lung. At one point I actually thought I might die from it because the cough had become relentless. It seemed angriest at night, disrupting my sleep and leaving me exhausted.
By the grace of God, I only had the most severe of the symptoms for a week, and I attribute that to the fact that I used eastern holistic healing to bring my body back to balance.
To heal the body needs rest. Take the time that you need to work through your healing process. And hopefully you'll feel well before you know it!
With love & light,
It has certainly been the beginning of a fascinating year! It seems like people's anger levels and intolerance's are reaching an all time high. It got me wondering to my Self...what in heaven's name is going on here??? So I started doing a little research (of course!) and I found some interesting information from the astrology world.
For the last few weeks several planets have been creating a Grand Cross in the sky which means different energy patterns have quite literally been "squaring off". That explains why we have been seeing the same thing happening between people everywhere we look. And this Grand Cross is also helping to bring to a close what we started back in 2008. That helps explain why this election year seems way more volatile than any I remember in the past.
The real question is...what does this mean to you? Are you noticing your intolerances being flushed up, and when they do, how are you choosing to deal with it? By reacting with judgement and hatred, OR proactively choosing to love and accept that which you do not understand?
And what were you beginning in 2008? Did you fulfill what you had envisioned, or do you still have work to complete?
For me 2008 was the time when I began to own my talents as a teacher and healer. This morning in my journal I realized that I am complete with that dharma, and am ready to move on to my next journey as an author/speaker. I'm not even sure what that means...but I do know that it fills my heart with blissful anticipation of what is to come.
Take some time this weekend to do a little inner reflection. Imagine how different the world would be if everyone was living a life they loved. That's the vision I'll be holding for you.
And promise me you won't put off doing your inner work! You deserve to be living the life of your dreams. As the old saying goes, "If not now, when?"
With love & light,
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